News Until You Puke

 I listen to way too much news. I feel if I don't, I'll miss the Second Coming, spreading Tsunami, in coming meteor, rising melt water from glaciers, a solar flare that might fry me, alien invasion or next terror attack that has been promised for the past four years. Since I don't want to miss these things, I listen to way too much news.


Beause I listen to way too much news, I know way too much about beheadinigs and bullet riddled bodies. I know way too much about car bombs and body parts lying around. A few days ago they found a few dozen heads in boxes in Iraq. This is no way to get ahead in war. I wish I didn't know about that, but I do. It makes me wonder where the rest of them went. I only know this stuff because I watch and listen to way too much news.


I know too many darn opinions about way too much stuff. I used to listen to Limbaugh, but I don't think he believes himself sometimes and O'Reilly is just way too angry, smart assed and repressed for my taste, but I know about these guys, because I listen to way too much news. I did hear a few things...in the news about their personal lives, and that was pretty cool to know they aren't as righteous as they would have me believe. I learned that on the the news. I listen to way too much you know. I listen to Air America. Now that's a pretty newsy bunch if ever there was one. I like them. They scare the hell out of me, but I like them. They say everything about government and this administration that all the other news I read about them makes me think. They make me feel that the thoughts I have about about all the other news I read about is at least normal. At least I don't feel so alone in my reaction to all the news I read way too much of.


I know way too much about Politicians, especially Republican ones that love Jesus so much, some of them seem to love making war more and more so he can return or something it seems. They make love too, but seem to often get caught doing it with the wrong people and even the wrong sex. Yikes, but honest, I read it in the news. I read Mrs. Bush moved out of the Whitehouse recently because Mr. President was goofin around with...well, others. Wow, that's pretty darn big news. Didn't see it on Fox or AOL though, so maybe it's not news, or maybe it is but not news for the masses, who knows? Some news tells me I won't see this news on the news because they won't make it news, so I guess we lose. Gosh, the news even tells me that this President might not even be the real President and that so many people had their vote thrown out, OK Democratic voters did. Now that would be depressing, but seems true to me. I hear it is true, from the news, twice!


Because of the news, I know way too much about CEO's who take way too much from everyone else to enrich themselves. I mean a LOT of them do. The news fills me in on how much Congressmen and Reps take from the public till, but CEO's are getting pretty darn good at it too. I see it in the news. Million dollar birthday parties, retirements that make God jealous since now he doesn't own all the cattle on a thousand hills after all. That former CEO does! Or at least he can. Smirking chimps all, because they always seem so sorry AFTER they get caught, and so shocked because they are soooooo innocent, but I just bet if no one noticed, they'd not be sorry a bit and take some more. But then at least later, we'd have more news. I read in the news where Enron just didn't hand out the power they said they didn't have, but did and got big bucks from old people in California trying to keep warm or cool...I forget which. Made me kinda mad. Those guys went to jail, but I hope we don't read in the news that their best friend, Mr. President, pardons them or something on his way out the door. I read in the news he can do that. It concerns me because I also read that when the President left Texas as Governor and was asked who would clean up after all the damage he did, he said it was not his problem. I hope I don't read he said that again when he leave office this time. I bet he does. I read in the news once that people don't change much in their lives and what they were they still are for the most part.


Why do I do this to myself...you know, reading and listening to all the news and opinions about the news and the people in the news who make the news and wish the news never found them? How many heads in boxes do I really want to know about or squashed humans in earthquakes? I have to say, I am worried that if I don't keep up with the news, I'll miss the really big one, whatever that might be. I tried once to not watch or listen to the news or the opinions the big boys have about it, but it didn't work. I got nervous not knowing what I was missing. I read in the news once where they want us to be nervous about the news because fear makes a good factor in controlling us and changing all the rules so we don't have the same freedoms we had before they made us afraidhttps://thenationalera.com/. Gosh, I can't win with this news thing! Now I even read news about why the news is the way it is!

I read once where what I thought was news was really not. It was more like a government advertisement that was made to look like news. But they got caught. I saw that on the news.


Well, I guess it's news, news, news, until we puke or at least until Jesus comes back and shuts down the presses and makes us all go to the church of someone else's choice so we can be happy. I read where then we'd have to go by Bible rules and stone our rebellious kids and women who were naughty and tithe to the chosen leaders of God. It would be like Jesus Land but for our own good and gay people and whoremongers, but not WARmongers, (what's a monger?) would get slain and we could only watch stuff like Oklahoma and Nemo finds Noah...and and and..oh never mind, I read about the rapture in the news and I am hoping that at least that will get these people out of here so we can fix the stuff they broke. I'm scaring myself again with stuff I read in the news. I'm breathing hard again..I gotta take a walk. Gosh, I hope if I am blown up or gassed by some terrorist while out walking, they at least get my name right. I read on the news where they mixed up two accident victims...doh...see what I mean!

More than ever, children witness innumerable, sometimes traumatizing,

news events on TV. It seems that violent crime and bad news is unabating.

Foreign wars, natural disasters, terrorism, murders, incidents of child abuse,

and medical epidemics flood our newscasts daily. Not to mention the grim

wave of recent school shootings.


All of this intrudes on the innocent world of children. If, as psychologists

say, kids are like sponges and absorb everything that goes on around them,

how profoundly does watching TV news actually affect them? How careful do

parents need to be in monitoring the flow of news into the home, and how can

they find an approach that works?


To answer these questions, we turned to a panel of seasoned anchors, Peter

Jennings, Maria Shriver, Linda Ellerbee, and Jane Pauley--each having faced the

complexities of raising their own vulnerable children in a news-saturated

world.


Picture this: 6:30 p.m. After an exhausting day at the office, Mom is busy

making dinner. She parks her 9-year-old daughter and 5-year-old son in front

of the TV.


"Play Nintendo until dinner's ready," she instructs the little ones, who,

instead, start flipping channels.


Tom Brokaw on "NBC News Tonight," announces that an Atlanta gunman

has killed his wife, daughter and son, all three with a hammer, before going on

a shooting rampage that leaves nine dead.


On "World News Tonight," Peter Jennings reports that a jumbo jetliner with

more than 300 passengers crashed in a spinning metal fireball at a Hong Kong

airport.


On CNN, there's a report about the earthquake in Turkey, with 2,000

people killed.


On the Discovery channel, there's a timely special on hurricanes and the

terror they create in children. Hurricane Dennis has already struck, Floyd is

coming.


Finally, they see a local news report about a roller coaster accident at a New

Jersey amusement park that kills a mother and her eight-year-old daughter.


Nintendo was never this riveting.


"Dinner's ready!" shouts Mom, unaware that her children may be terrified

by this menacing potpourri of TV news.


What's wrong with this picture?


"There's a LOT wrong with it, but it's not that easily fixable," notes Linda

Ellerbee, the creator and host of "Nick News," the award-winning news

program geared for kids ages 8-13, airing on Nickelodeon.


"Watching blood and gore on TV is NOT good for kids and it doesn't do

much to enhance the lives of adults either," says the anchor, who strives to

inform children about world events without terrorizing them. "We're into

stretching kids' brains and there's nothing we wouldn't cover," including

recent programs on euthanasia, the Kosovo crisis, prayer in schools, book-

banning, the death penalty, and Sudan slaves.


But Ellerbee emphasizes the necessity of parental supervision, shielding

children from unfounded fears. "During the Oklahoma City bombing, there

were terrible images of children being hurt and killed," Ellerbee recalls. "Kids

wanted to know if they were safe in their beds. In studies conducted by

Nickelodeon, we found out that kids find the news the most frightening thing

on TV.


"Whether it's the Gulf War, the Clinton scandal, a downed jetliner, or what

happened in Littleton, you have to reassure your children, over and over again,

that they're going to be OK--that the reason this story is news is that IT

ALMOST NEVER HAPPENS. News is the exception...nobody goes on the air

happily and reports how many planes landed safely!


"My job is to put the information into an age-appropriate context and lower

anxieties. Then it's really up to the parents to monitor what their kids watch

and discuss it with them"


Yet a new study of the role of media in the lives of children conducted by

the Henry J. Kaiser Family Foundation reveals that 95% of the nation's children

ages 8-18 are watching TV without their parents present.


How does Ellerbee view the typical scenario of the harried mother above?


"Mom's taking a beating here. Where's Dad?" Ellerbee asks.Perhaps at work,

or living separately from Mom, or absent altogether.


"Right. Most Moms and Dads are working as hard as they can because we

live in a society where one income just doesn't cut it anymore,"


NBC News correspondent Maria Shriver, the mother of four--Katherine,

13, Christina, 12, Patrick, 10, and Christopher, 6--agrees with Ellerbee: "But

Moms

aren't using the TV as a babysitter because they're out getting manicures!"

says the 48-year-old anchor.


"Those mothers are struggling to make ends meet and they do it because

they need help. I don't think kids would be watching [as much TV] if their

parents were home organizing a touch football game.


"When I need the TV as a babysitter," says Shriver, who leaves detailed TV-

viewing instructions behind when traveling, "I put on a safe video. I don't mind

that my kids have watched "Pretty Woman" or "My Best Friend's Wedding"

3,000 times. I'd be more fearful if they watched an hour of local news.That

would scare them. They might feel: 'Oh, my God, is somebody going to come

in and shoot me in my bedroom?'"


In a move to supervise her own children more closely since her husband,

Arnold Schwarzenegger, became Governor, Shriver

scaled back her workload as Contributing Anchor to Dateline NBC and set up

her office at home: "You can never be vigilant enough with your kids," she

says, "because watching violence on TV clearly has a huge impact on

children--whether it's TV news, movies, or cartoons."


This view is shared by the American Academy of Child and Adolescent

Psychiatry, which states: ""TV is a powerful influence in developing value

systems and shaping behavior...studies find that children may become immune

to the horror of violence; gradually accept violence as a way to solve problems;

and resort to anti-social and aggressive behavior, imitating the violence they

observe."


Although there are no rules about watching TV in 49% of the nation's

households, TV-watching at the Schwarzenegger home is almost totally

verboten:


"We have a blanket rule that my kids do not watch any TV at all during the

week," she notes, "and having a TV in their bedrooms has never been an

option. I have enough trouble getting them to do their homework!" she states

with a laugh. "Plus the half hour of reading they have to do every night.


According to the Kaiser survey, Shriver's household is a glaring exception to

the rule. "Many kids have their own TV's, VCR's and video games in their

bedroom," the study notes. Moreover, children ages 8-18 actually spend an

average of three hours and 16 minutes watching TV daily; only 44 minutes

reading; 31 minutes using the computer; 27 minutes playing video games;

and a mere 13 minutes using the Internet.


"My kids," Shriver explains, "get home at 4 p.m., have a 20-minute break,

then go right into homework or after-school sports. Then, I'm a big believer in

having family dinner time. Some of my fondest memories are of sitting at the

dinner table and listening to my parents, four brothers, and my grandmother,

Rose. We didn't watch the news.


"After dinner nowadays, we play a game, then my kids are in bed, reading

their books. There's no time in that day for any TV, except on weekends, when

they're allowed to watch a Disney video, Sesame Street, Barney, The Brady

Bunch, or Pokemon."


Beyond safe entertainment, Shriver has eliminated entirely the option of her

children watching news events unfolding live on TV: "My kids," she notes, "do

not watch any TV news, other than Nick News," instead providing her children

with Time for Kids, [Teen Newsweek is also available], Highlights, and

newspaper clippings discussed over dinner.


"No subject should be off-limits," Shriver concludes, "but you must filter

the news to your kids."


ABC's Peter Jennings, who reigns over "World News Tonight," the nation's

most-watched evening newscast, emphatically disagrees with a censored

approach to news-watching: "I have two kids--Elizabeth is now 24 and

Christopher is 21-- and they were allowed to watch as much TV news and

information anytime they wanted," says the anchor. A firm believer in

kids understanding the world around them, he adapted his bestselling book,

The Century, for children ages 10 and older in The Century for Young People.


No downside to kids watching news? "I don't know of any downside and I've

thought about it many times. I used to worry about my kids' exposure to

violence and overt sex in the movies. Like most parents, I found that although

they were exposed to violence sooner than I would have liked, I don't feel

they've been affected by it. The jury's still out on the sex.


"I have exposed my kids to the violence of the world--to the bestiality of

man--from the very beginning, at age 6 or 7. I didn't try to hide it. I never

worried about putting a curtain between them and reality, because I never felt

my children would be damaged by being exposed to violence IF they

understood the context in which it occurred. I would talk to my kids about the

vulnerability of children in wartime--the fact that they are innocent pawns--

and about what we could do as a family to make the world a more peaceful

place.


Jennings firmly believes that coddling children is a mistake: "I've never

talked down to my children, or to children period. I always talk UP to them and

my newscast is appropriate for children of any age."


Yet the 65-year-old anchor often gets letters from irate parents: "They'll

say: 'How dare you put that on at 6:30 when my children are watching?' My

answer is: 'Madam, that's not my problem. That's YOUR problem. It's

absolutely up to the parent to monitor the flow of news into the home."


Part of directing this flow is turning it off altogether at meal-time, says

Jennings, who believes family dinners are sacrosanct. He is appalled that the

TV is turned on during meals in 58% of the nation's households, this according

to the Kaiser study.


"Watching TV during dinner is unforgivable," he exclaims, explaining that

he always insisted that his family wait until he arrived home from anchoring

the news. "You're darn right they waited...even when my kids were tiny, they

never ate until 7:30 or 8 pm. Then we would sit with no music, no TV. Why

waste such a golden opportunity? Watching TV at mealtime robs the family of

the essence of the dinner, which is communion and exchange of ideas. I mean,

God, if the dinner table is anything, it's a place to learn manners and

appreciation for two of the greatest things in life--food and drink."


Jennings is likewise unequivocal in his view of junk TV and believes parking

kids at the tube creates dull minds: "I think using TV as a babysitter is a

terrible idea because the damn television is very narcotic, drug-like. Mindless

TV makes for passive human beings--and it's a distraction from homework!


"My two children were allowed to watch only a half an hour of entertainment

TV per night--and they never had TV's in their bedrooms.It's a conscious

choice I made as a parent not to tempt them...too seductive..."


Adds Ellerbee: "TV is seductive and is meant to be. The hard, clear fact is

that when kids are watching TV, they're not doing anything else!"


Indeed, according to the National Institute on Out-of-School Time and the

Office of Research Education Consumer Guide, TV plays a bigger role in

children's lives now than ever before. Kids watch TV an average of14 to 22

hours per week, which accounts for at least 25 percent of their free time.


"Dateline NBC" Anchor Jane Pauley, intensely private, declined an interview

to discuss how she and her husband, cartoonist Garry Trudeau ("Doonesbury")

handle TV-watching with their three teens, two of whom are fraternal twins.

But in a written response, she agreed that kids need to be better protected

from the onslaught of violence: "I was a visitor at a public elementary school

not long ago, and was invited to peek in on a fourth-grade class on 'current

events.' The assignment had been to watch the news and write about one of

the stories. Two kids picked the fatal attack on a child by a pit bull and the

other wrote about a child who'd hanged herself with a belt! They'd all watched

the worst blood and gore 'News at 11' station in town. The teacher gave no

hint that she was as appalled as I was. My response was to help the school get

subscriptions to "Time for Kids" and "My Weekly Reader." People need to be

better news consumers. And tabloid TV is very unhealthy for kids."


On this point, Ellerbee readily agrees:"I really do believe the first

amendment STOPS at your front door. You are the boss at home and parents

have every right to monitor what their kids watch. What's even better is

watching with them and initiating conversations about what they see.If your

child is watching something terribly violent, sit down and DEFUSE it. Talking

makes the ghosts run...and kids can break through their scared feelings."


Adds Pauly:


"Kids," she maintains, "know about bad news--they're the ones trying to

spare us the bad news sometimes. But kids should be able to see that their

parents are both human enough to be deeply affected by a tragedy like

Columbine, but also sturdy enough to get through it...and on with life. That is

the underpinning of their security."


"I'm no expert on the nation's children," adds Jennings, " but I'd have to say

no, it wasn't traumatic. Troubling, shocking, even devastating to some,

confusing to others, but traumatizing in that great sense, no.


"Would I explain to my kids that there are young, upset, angry, depressed

kids in the world? Yes. I hear the most horrendous stories about what's going

on in high schools from my kids. And because of the shootings, parents are

now on edge--pressuring educators to 'do something.' They have to be

reminded that the vast majority of all schools in America are overwhelmingly

safe," a fact borne out by The National School Safety Center, which reports that

in l998 there were just 25 violent deaths in schools compared to an average of

50 in the early 90's.


Ellerbee adds that a parent's ability to listen is more important than

lobbying school principals for more metal detectors and armed guards: "If

there was ever a case where grown-ups weren't listening to kids, it was

Littleton. First, don't interrupt your child...let them get the whole thought out.

Next, if you sit silently for a couple of seconds after they're finished, they'll

start talking again, getting to a second level of honesty. Third, try to be honest

with your kid. To very small children, it's proper to say: 'This is never going to

happen to you...' But you don't say that to a 10-year-old."


Moreover, Ellerbee believes that media literacy begins the day parents stop

pretending that if you ignore TV, it will go away. "Let your kid know from the

very beginning that he or she is SMARTER than TV: 'I am in control of this box,

it is not in control of me. I will use this box as a useful, powerful TOOL, but will

not be used by it.' Kids know the difference.


"Watching TV," Ellerbee maintains, "can makes kids more civilized. I grew

up in the south of Texas in a family of bigoted people. Watching TV made me

question my own family's beliefs in the natural inferiority of people of color.

For me, TV was a real window that broadened my world."


Ironically, for Shriver, watching TV news is incredibly painful when the

broadcast is about you. Being a Kennedy, Shriver has lived a lifetime in the

glare of rumors and

televised speculation about her own family. Presenting the news to her children

has therefore included explaining the tragedies and controversies the

Kennedys have endured. She was just eight years old when her uncle, President

John F. Kennedy, was assassinated: "I grew up in a very big shadow...and I

couldn't avoid it," she admits. "It wasn't a choker, but it was a big

responsibility that I don't want my own children to feel." Yet doesn't her 15-

year marriage to megastar Schwarzenegger add yet another layer of public

curiosity close to home? "My kids are not watching Entertainment Tonight--no,

no, never! And I don't bring them to movie openings or Planet Hollywood. I

think it's fine for them to be proud of their father, but not show off about him."


How does she emotionally handle news when her family's in it? "That's a line

I've been walking since my own childhood, and it's certainly effected the kind

of reporter I've become. It's made me less aggressive. I'm not [in the news

business] to glorify myself at someone else's expense, but rather to report a

story without destroying someone in the process. A producer might say: 'Call

this person who's in a disastrous situation and book them right way.' And I'm

like: 'Ahhhh. I can't even bring myself to do it,' because I've been on the

other side and know the family is in such pain."


A few years ago, of course, the Kennedys experienced profound pain, yet

again, when Shriver's beloved cousin, John F. Kennedy, Jr., was killed in a plane

crash, with his wife, Carolyn, and sister-in-law, Lauren Bessette. A blizzard of

news coverage ensued, unremitting for weeks. "I didn't watch any of it...I was

busy, " Shriver says quietly. "And my children didn't watch any of it either."


Shriver was, however, somewhat prepared to discuss the tragedy with her

children. She is the author of the best-selling "What's Heaven?" [Golden Books],

a book geared for children ages 4-8, which explains death and the loss of a

loved one. "My children knew John well because he spent Christmases with us. I

explained what happened to John as the news unfolded...walked them through

it as best I could. I reminded them that Mommy wrote the book and said:

'We're not going to see John anymore. He has gone to God...to heaven...and we

have to pray for him and for his sister [Caroline] and her children."


Like Shriver, Jennings is personally uncomfortable in the role of covering

private tragedies in a public forum: "In my shop, I'm regarded as one of those

people who drags their feet a lot at the notion of covering those things," he

explains. "During the O.J. Simpson trial, I decided not to go crazy in our

coverage--and we took quite a smack and dropped from first to second in the

ratings. TV is a business, so when a real corker of a story like Princess Diana's

death comes along, we cover it. I think we're afraid not to do it. We're guilty of

overkill, and with Diana, we ended up celebrating something that was largely

ephemeral, making Diana more than she was. But audiences leap up!


"I was totally opposed to covering John F. Kennedy, Jr.'s funeral, because I

saw no need to do it. He wasn't a public figure, though others would say I was

wrong. On-air, I said: 'I don't think the young Mr. Kennedy would approve of

all this excess...' But we did three hours on the funeral and it turned out to be

a wonderful long history lesson about American politics and the Kennedy

dynasty's place in our national life.


"Sometimes," Jennings muses, "TV is like a chapel in which we, as a nation,

can gather to have a communal experience of loss.We did it with the

Challenger, more recently with JFK Jr.'s death and we will do it shortly, I

suspect, though I hope not, with Ronald Reagan. It's not much different than

what people did when they went West in covered wagons in the last century.

When tragedy struck, they gathered the wagons around, lit the fire, and talked

about their losses of the day. And then went on. Television can be very

comforting."


In closing, Ellerbee contends that you can't blame TV news producers for

the human appetite for sensational news coverage that often drags on for days

at a time:


"As a reporter," she muses, "I have never been to a war, traffic accident, or

murder site that didn't draw a crowd. There is a little trash in all of us. But the

same people who stop to gawk at a traffic accident, may also climb down a well

to save a child's life, or cry at a sunset, or grin and tap their feet when the

parade goes by.






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